This week has been a roller coaster of emotions! Very painful and confusing. I read some things online though that at first upset me but I think will actually help. I read that what I am going threw is very normal. That things for the first month will be crazy for me emotionally. I also realized that Ron and I spent so much of our energy pre-deployment on him NOT leaving that we did not prepare ourselves emotionally at all for this. So the emotional things he should have gone threw prior to leaving he probably is going threw now. And add that two the roller coaster that I am going threw and neither of us is stable right now.
The scary thing is that it says if you don't get this under control.. either partner, but especially the spouse left behind can actually lose it mentally. Many wives try to commit suicide while their spouse is away. Also I read that it is very bad to fight because it make both parties feel insecure about their relationship and things can escalate on that. Basically, it like a self actualization. Were you concentrate so much on what bad could happen, that you actually make it happen.
It is going to be so hard for me to change my tune but I better do it now and FAST!
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Please stop readin whatever you're reading. As time passes you'll both learn to cope. If you need someone to talk to, talk to the chaplain but please don't read all of this negative stuff.
ReplyDeleteWe just reached the half way point in our 2nd deployment and I know you can find a lot of crazy stuff online. Try to stay positive, go about your life as much as you can, stay busy, get out, meet people, interact with people, and support your husband as much as you can.