For all those keeping it together while a love one is deployed.

This blog is for all those military spouses that are holding it all together while there loved one is deployed. I feel like most military organizations and especially the Army don't really give a crap about what happens to the family of the deployed soldier. ( And the Army claims their values are Family first!! Like hell.. when everyone knows their real feelings are "if we wanted you to have a family we would have issued you one") So I make this blog for us. Maybe life won't suck so bad if I know I am not alone. Misery love company... right!

I feel like we, the military spouses, have a huge responsibility and are holding "real life" together by ourselves for a year or longer while our spouses are over there serving our country. I never hear anyone say "Wow, look at that woman (or man) serving her country, by giving everything she has to her family so that her husband can deploy" Instead I hear... "It's Life, It's your husband job, He signed on the dotted line". Well you know, I didn't sign on the dotted line to do this alone, by myself for a year! Its not my fault the man I feel in love with is in the army. What was I suppose to do... Say "I'm sorry.. I can't fall in love with you because your a soldier." Its also not his fault or mine, that his social-economic status was so poor growing up that his only option in life was to join the military. I know most countries for century's have fortified their nation with those that are young and poor. So yes, husband whom was living in a roach infested apartment, not able to pay rent because he could only get work part time at a grocery store, joined the army. Who would blame him, and most anybody in that situation would do the same.

So now he is off in Iraq like a good soldier, doing his country proud, while his wife takes care of 3 very young children, one of which whom has autism, and go is going to school and doing all the other things that need to be done so that when he come home in a year everything is in order just like when he left.

And should our spouse become wounded in this time of war (or whatever you want to call it), We, the spouses will be the ones to take care of them many times for the rest of their lives. We will be the ones standing beside our loved ones.. even when the military tosses them off like a used wore out condom. And what if they should fall, then we will forever be alone and will have to explain to our children why Daddy isn't going to be coming home after all.

But no... Its our job and we are unimportant. "Because if the military wanted you to have a family we would have issued you one..." The words of an old NCOIC I had while serving in the military. Yes I have been on both sides of this fence. I know what its like to be the lackey serving our country. Not to belittle our soldiers... but at the same time they aren't treated very good and have no say in basically anything in their lives. Maybe this statement is untrue for those who have been in long enough and have a permanent brown spot tattooed to the tip of their nose. Then your right, maybe those people can do as they wish when they wish. But for most this is not the case.

Well anyway, I hope that this blog can help others in my situation. You can vent, share stories whatever you want. Keep it nice though.. I don't like fighting... I have enough of that with 3 kids running around. And if nobody should find this blog, that is fine too.. I will just vent to my self this whole year.. I'm sure it will be good therapy too.